He Rests in The Clouds

Dear Lincoln,

Today I want to share the story of Zach Sobiech with you.  Zach once said “don’t wait until your dying to start living”.  I hope you will always remember that.

Zach was a 18-year-old songwriter who was diagnosed at 14 with Osteosarcoma. Battling his cancerous bone tumors, Zach turned to the power of music and his guitar to express his feelings. His music was his way for him to say good-bye to his friends and family. As it turns out, the world also listened.

Given only months to live, Zach wrote the song “Clouds” to say goodbye. His song “Clouds” spread, and soon, Zach’s message was heard across the country. The YouTube channel Soulpancake wanted to help Zach spread his message, and bring awareness to increase support for finding a cure. So, they asked their friends to help out…they did. I think you’ll enjoy this video as much as I did.

As always little buddy, I love you, Puppa

To download “clouds” and support Zach’s Osteosarcoma fund:https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/clo

To support the Zach Sobiech osteosarcoma fund and help find a cure for childhood cancer visit: http://www.childrenscancer.org/zach


A Love Story

Dear Lincoln,

Today I want to share a story with you about love.


It was a busy morning, about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80’s arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He said he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am.

The nurse took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him. The nurse saw him looking at his watch and decided, since she was not busy with another patient, she would evaluate his wound. On exam, it was well healed, so she talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, she asked him if he had another doctor’s appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry.  The gentleman told her no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife. She inquired as to her health.  He told her that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer’s Disease.

As they talked, the nurse asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late.  He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.  The nurse was surprised, and asked him, ‘And you still go every morning, even though she doesn’t know who you are?’  He smiled as he patted her hand and said,

‘She doesn’t know me, but I still know who she is.’

Lincoln, this is the love I wish for you in your life.  Please remember that true love is neither physical, nor romantic.  True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be.

Lincoln I love you, Puppa.

Reflecting on a Sunday Morning

Dear Lincoln,

It’s Sunday morning and as always I’m in that reflective mood.  Today I’m thinking about your Great Grandpa Buck.  Great Grandpa Buck is Nana’s dad, my father in-law, and best friend.  I thought today would be a good day to share with you something I wrote about him back in 2008.  That year I wrote a book titled Lake Effect for the family for Christmas.  As you grow up you will learn the impact Great Grandpa Buck had on my life.

The following was the dedication I wrote for the book.

Dad you are the main element of how I have become me. I think things through, long and hard, before I make a decision. Once the decision is made, I stick by it and make the best of the situation.  Because of you, I know the value of a dollar and how hard it is to earn it.  You love unconditionally.  I’ve messed up my life so many times and you were always there to love me anyway.

You are always there with advice when I need it.  And, you always know when to back off. You will drop everything to come and help me or rescue me out of a situation.  Whether it be car trouble or the police calling (of course the police thing has never happened-but I’m sure you would still be there).  At times, you made me take a hard look at myself which sometime hurt, but as I have grown up, I realize it was for my own good and I respect you for that.  

You are generous beyond what most people would consider generous.  You will give your last $20 if someone needed it.  Even though your very manly, you have not been afraid to show your emotions.  I’ve seen you laugh and I’ve seen you cry.  Your tears shot through me like an arrow and I realized how much you loved your family and didn’t want to see anything bad happen to them. You encourage me to the point that it makes my heart smile. When I’m hungry you will feed me, when I’m crying you will listen to me through my tears, when I screw up you don’t say I told you so.  Your always ready with a ear to bend.  

You have worked to give your family a good life, and you have never really wanted for anything.  You never complained.  You put everyone else first, yet you know how and when to say NO. Okay, I’m still trying to learn to do that with my girls, so it’s a virtue of yours I am nowhere near a master of.  My complete love and loyalty toward my family was learned from the lessons you taught. Because of the husband and father you are and have always been-I knew exactly what kind of man to be: honest, loyal, gentle, carrying and with a slightly odd sense of humor.  You are quite the role model. Notice how my marriage to your beautiful daughter is still strong and romantic after over 28 years?

What I’m trying to say dad-without you……… there would have never been a me.


As always, I love you Lincoln, Puppa.


Another Life Lesson

Dear Lincoln,

Here’s Puppa’s Life Lesson #2.  When someone is in your life for a REASON… It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

Then people come into your life for a SEASON. Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons: things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Lincoln, you are my lifetime relationship,